Francis Githinji asked:


We all engage in *** because of the feel-good effect but the benefits are more than the half a minute pleasure. We all love our bodies and we go extra miles to ensure that we are fit and healthy at all times. If all people can understand the goodness of *** most of the simple and even complicated health problems can be avoided. Taking drugs can be a short-term solution but having *** liberates from conditions for a very long time. Getting addicted to drugs is a bad thing but getting addicted to *** has more pros than cons. ******* do a lot to lighten migraine headaches, and also pre-menstrual symptoms like cramps. *** is the new drug for any chronic pain. Pain factor is among the *** factors that urges you to get enough of it to stay healthy.

A study at royal Edinburgh hospital in Scotland revealed the **** side of beauty or the *** factors in beauty. It has been found that sexual activity increases attractiveness quotient of a person by far. Being young is associated with beauty. In his research he found out that having *** four times a week made people look 8 to 13 years younger than the participants that had less *** a week. Stress increases the age factor but the oxytocin released during *** decreases stress in one’s life therefore making them look more attractive and more appealing. During *** there is a lot of blood pumping throughout the body. The post-coital pumping opens up the skin pores and brightens our blush. The rosy cheeks are also as a result of good ***.

The more you feel attractive chances are that you will have more ***. Women who have a perception that they are less attractive engage in less *** compared to women who perceived themselves as ****. Having *** is very much associated with attractive. Having a flush of *** is what every woman needs as an exercise is one of the *** factors. The physical part of *** is a great exercise since it relaxes the pelvic floor. The physical exercise runs like a hammock starting from the pubic bone and to the spine. This gives a woman full control of her urinary functions. It also determines the ability to have an arousal and also ******. The pelvic floor supports the whole of female sexual anatomy and therefore its exercise is very vital. This explains why women should try to work on their libidos so that they can have as much *** as it is possible.

As a woman ages regular sexual activity is important. It helps to keep the vaginal canal moist and this prevents it from narrowing. This helps a lot during gynecological exams which are very important since a woman’s reproductive system is very sensitive. This shows that it is important for a woman to ********** even when she is no longer interested in partner ***. Exercising the pelvic muscles improves the vaginal tone and the sexual response. Good blood flow is key to arousal build up. How often one engages in *** contributes to lubrication and ******* sensation during ***. The benefits of *** are not dependant on ******. A touch or a massage is enough to release the required hormones. *** factors are great enough to bring a lot of happiness into your life.

Robert asked:


nt some advice on how to make your *** life go with a bang, follow our simple tips for success in bed.

First *** Position Error

Pushing your lover to do anything she isn’t comfortable with. So, if you’ve been thinking of copying what you see in **** films, forget it! Look at it this way. Being comfortable for a woman involves two important things: first of all, she has to be physically comfortable. That might mean she won’t feel too happy if you ask her to put her ankles behind her ears while you make love. It might also mean that you need to avoid any *** position that gives you the deepest penetration, since your ***** might bang her cervix and give her some serious discomfort. Second, she has to emotionally comfortable. So if you treat her like one of those **** stars, she isn’t going to be too happy either, and you’re not likely to be invited back to bed. The things to avoid include: wanting to ejaculate over her without her whole-hearted agreement, using rude talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to slap her **** if she doesn’t like this, and generally treating her like a *** object rather than a person.

Second *** Position Error

There’s an old saying: “A gentleman takes his weight on his arms during ***.” If you think this is the best way to behave during *** in the missionary position, did you ever try asking your partner what she wants? A lot of women like to feel the weight of their man on top of them during *** - they say things like: it makes them feel secure, loved, or that they just like to feel the power of their man in this position. Of course, if you’re a lot heavier than she is, you might squash her, so exercise some judgement, but generally, in the man on top *** position, let her feel how much you love her!

Third *** Position Mistake

Remember great *** is the product of two people’s energy, so don’t just lie there if she’s in the woman on top position. Remember that you can still move in this sexual position, even if your opportunity to thrust is rather restricted. You can thrust your pelvis to match her movements, raise your knees to alter the angle at which your ***** enters her vagina, and findle her ******* and ******** if she’s facing you while you make love. If you’ve ever had a woman lie under you like a log - without moving - when you were making love during man on top sex, so in this position, return the favour and move about yourself!

Fourth *** Position Mistake

Being too dominant during ***. Sure, some women like more energy in sex, either all the time or once in a while, but for a woman, *** tends to be something special and she’d like you to treat it that way too! All of which means not being selfish during sex, not having an ****** yourself before she’s had one, and not respecting her needs during your ***. If you want to show how much of a man you are by being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather than flinging her around the bed. Needless to say, this advice applies whatever *** position you are using!

Fifth *** Position Mistake

Getting in a sexual rut every time you make love. Sure, you don’t have to try all the adventurous and challenging positions you can find on the internet, but a bit of variation really can add excitement and passion to your *** life. Even if you’re extremely fond of the man on top position, for example, *** in the rear entry or side by side positions will let you enjoy a very different experience, may well get you much more aroused, and will certainly give you both some different sensations!

See http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com for more information on great *** positions!

Eren asked:


SEX EQUALITY: *** DISCRIMINATION RELATED VICTIMIZATION IN EMPLOYMENT

(Based on author’s site www.geocities.com/sxvct)

Sex equality victimization in employment need not involve sexual advances, gender prejudice -it is itself unlawful.

Employees who suffer *** equality victimization without *** discrimination or sexual harassment also have rights ~this while mostly female victimization is different than sexual discrimination or illegal sexual advances, but equally unlawful under equal rights and *** equality laws.

Sex equality victimization is the specific kind of unlawful employer retaliation which is specifically to do with but independent of *** discrimination or sexual harassment -it has its own different rules, regulations, legal procedures.

Compensation awardable for *** equality victimization in workplaces relates to equal rights and can be limitless if ‘injury to feelings’ is caused by *** equality victimization in employment -if about sexual prejudice in the workplace.

Sex equality victimization has its own special legal definition and is called so because it is gender victimization based on *** equality laws and often arises in employment when one in good faith enquires about, e.g., maternity or paternity leave entitlement and in sexism is subjected to victimization, or if one, mistaken though one may be, honestly believing oneself subjected to unlawful discrimination or unwelcome sexual advances, complains of sexual harassment and suffers victimization (or, if a man or girl or work woman upon being suspected that would, could, or might, complain of a *** equality matter [e.g. illegal prejudice because of marital status or sexual orientation] is caused a detriment) -not necessarily a sexist detriment unlawful under gender equality laws or in terms of a woman’s rights or of women’s equality but any kind of detriment that is because of a sexual discrimination matter.

Simply put, victimization is this, in employment law (under the *** Discrimination Act 1975 ss. 4(1)&(2))..: If the employer knew, or suspected… that the employee alleged, or intended to allege… that the employer, or another employee, did something wrong under the *** Discrimination or a related Act… and… if the employer can not show the allegation to be, both, untrue and not in good faith… and… if it can be seen that as a result of that… by the standards of reasonable employers… one was treated less favourably than any other employee was, or would be, treated… that is unlawful victimisation.

This unlawful victimization under the *** equality legislation applies, just as in the case of unwanted *** advances to a man or women by opposite or same *** or sexual prejudice or bullying, also in the provision goods or services and *** victimization is actionable then too; but, *** prejudice or sexual abuse based victimization is mostly a feminine issue and mostly *** victimization takes place in employment against girls or women employees -although not only female employees but also male persons may complain of *** equality victimization.

In sexual victimization complaints arising out of workplace harassment or gender prejudice covered by a *** equality law, if victimization is or involves dismissal, the qualifying period (the requirement that one must have been employed for at least a year to be entitled to complain under employment legislation -unless for breach of contract) does not apply -an equal rights demand is a protected act and one may complain of gender victimization regardless of one’s length of employment.

Such victimization is covered also by the Code of Practice of ACAS (Advisory Conciliation and Arbitration Service) who arbitrate also on *** equality and victimization claims.

The EOC (Equal Opportunities Commission) must promote equal rights policies -including sexism toward women workers and working women’s rights and victimization of woman employees ~it requires employers to have a written EOP (Equal Opportunities policy) document on equality principles -including on *** equality and covering unlawful prejudice victimization of work women.

Sex equality legislation requires the EOC also to provide advice to and assistance in respect of complaints to Industrial Tribunals of victimisation (this, unless assistance is applied for legal representation, often is in the form of advice and drawing up of the *** equality Questionnaire ~answers to this can be used in evidence that there had been e.g. an illegal discrimination complaint -it entitles inference about the alleged victimization to be drawn from failure to respond or if answers are vague or ambiguous).

When complaining of *** equality related victimization, it is important to remember the following:-

A. Complaints of equal rights victimization to Employment Tribunals must be made within three months of the date on which the *** equality victimisation took place, or of when the *** equality victimization came to one’s notice -this does not include that day, but does include weekends and most public holidays and day of receipt of the victimization complaint by the Employment Tribunal local to the employer ~the last day ends at midnight.

B. Same applies about the *** victimization Questionnaire -but if served after the victimization claim is lodged it is 21 days ~even if the employer is legally represented, if a limited company, it should be served on it’s Company Secretary at its registered address.

C. If a postal victimization claim is received out of time, one must show that at least 2 days were allowed for postal delivery -or the victimization claim may be rejected.

In complaints of sex-equality victimization it is wise to bear in mind precedent which may affect victimization claims:-

1. Victimization has to be in respect of the employment relationship; a sexual prejudice or sexual abuse based victimization complaint does not qualify if it is by the employer but not in the course of or in respect of the employment itself -i.e. if the employer in an unrelated meeting or dealing e.g. at a wedding reception ridicules the employee that is not covered by employment rights: Walters -v- Metropolitan Police Commissioner, 1997, CA.

2. In *** equality victimization complaints, the onus of proof is on the complainant ~although it may easily move to employer: Humphreys -v- Board of St. Georges 1978, EAT -the employer must justify subjecting to a proven detriment considered victimization: National Vulcan Eng. Ins. -v- Wade, 1977 EAT, and a broad approach is relevant in victimization cases: Copper Pass -v- Lawton 1976, EAT.

3. Employment legislation requires reference at the first instance to ACAS with a view to possible settlement without resort to an Employment Tribunal, and so it is also in gender prejudice or *** harassment based victimization ~also, if victimization was dismissal, the victim must ask the employer to re-consider and respond within 28 days -a general principle in employment right being that additional facts must be considered by the employer: Wells -v- Derwent Plastics Ltd. 1978 EAT, any new facts even after dismissal: Christie -v- Rolls Royce Ltd. 1971 EAT, if the employer erred it must be corrected: Sandhu v Dept Science & Education 1973 EAT, especially if there had been no indication of dismissal: Williamson -v- Alcan (UK) Ltd. 1978 EAT.

4. If *** equality victimization is short of dismissal comparisons with others may be necessary -e.g. if one’s workload has been increased or promotion has been denied by victimization ~comparison is the basis of most equal rights cases, e.g., London Regional Transport 1998 CA -custom & practice can also be considered Wallace -v- E. J. Fry Ltd. 1979 NIRC.

5. In victimization complaints it matters not whether the employer was consciously or unconsciously victimizing nor what was the employer’s motive or intention -if there has been less favourable treatment on grounds of gender that suffices: Reg. -v- Birmingham CC ex-parte EOC 1989, HL, and, James -v- Eastleigh BC 1990, HL.

6. Victimization cases may involve a Pre-Hearing Review to decide whether there is a reasonable prospect of success -this is different than a full merits hearing of the victimization complaint, and the onus here to discharge is not proving the *** equality victimization case, but that the employer’s stated reason is capable of not being the reason, and that the reason is capable of being victimization, qualifying the *** equality victimization complaint for a full merits hearing.

7. If *** equality victimization is dismissal and it proceeds to a full hearing, once the *** equality victimization complainant gives evidence, it is then for the employer to counter that evidence and normally the Employment Tribunals then have regard to the reason stated by the employer in determining if the *** equality victimization was the reason or the main reason for the dismissal.

There is no automatic entitlement to written reasons for the decisions of Employment Tribunals and appeals can not be made without written reasons -one must specifically ask for written reasons within 14 days of the victimization hearing ~appeals in *** equality victimization cases lie to the EAT (Employment Appeal Tribunal).

Laws change -the above are brief guidelines.

The author has a website at: www.geocities.com/eoa_uk

El asked:


My fiance says we don’t have *** enough. We do live together and we have *** about 2-3 times a week. We both work 40+ hours at work and attend school. I think we have a healthy *** life he thinks that we should be doing it more. What do you think?

Nyaso Carter asked:


Why people are interested in tantric sex

Judging from my long time experience as a tantric *** coach, it seems to me that most people at some point in their lives have a sexual experience that could be called transcendental or mystical, or simply “out of this world” wonderful. This special sexual experience could have taken place with a partner or on their own. It doesn’t matter how it came about, what matters is that many, many people naturally have this kind of amazing sexual encounter, often quite inadvertently. That’s because our bodies, psyches and spirits are wired to have this kind of experience. It’s in our original blue print to be ecstatic. When we are able to totally relax, let go, trust and open up, magical, divine love-making happens all by itself.

So, if it’s so natural, why don’t more people enjoy mind-blowing *** as a regular, everyday thing? That’s because our upbringing has trained us out of our intuitive knowing. Still, having once, or sporadically, had this experience, it is only understandable that people spend their lives trying to recapture that special moment, often failing to do so. Some manage it occasionally, but few have it consistently. Others go down the wrong track all together into all kinds of sexual distractions, even *** addiction. But what people really seek deep down is *** that helps them merge with the divine, *** that tunes them into the love that is the very fabric of who we are, *** that helps them melt and become one with God, Goddess, The Source, “That which is eternal”.

The reason “Tantra” has become so popular lately is because tantric *** describes quite well this sacred *** that people are missing. And so people try out whatever suggestions they find under the term Tantra. But what a lot of people don’t understand is that no amount of techniques or special breathing rhythms or chants or body positions, or incense or gadgets will get you to this longed for state of blissful pleasure and merging.

What you need to get there is much simpler then that. To have fantastic life-altering *** you need emotional and physical openness, that’s it.

It’s simple but that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily easy.

That’s why, paradoxically, these mystical sexual experiences are often experienced by couples who are fairly new to each other. Check your own experience and see if I’m right.

This is so because couples who are new to each other are typically a lot less weighed down with cautiousness. There is an innocence, a freshness, a hopefulness and a lack of negative expectation. There is an absence of the protection that usually builds between a couple as their intimate relating touches old emotional wounds and as lack of sexual knowledge and communication skills creates repeated disappointments.

Does that mean that you should go from honeymoon to honeymoon, from partner to partner in search of this magical ***. Oh no! The truly best sex, the lasting kind, the really amazing deeply transformational *** is always found in committed relationships where the partners keep growing in closeness together.

So what can a couple do to consistently have the best *** they’ve ever had? And not just on their honeymoon or once in a great while?

They can commit to emotional, physical and energetic opening. But how?

In my home audio workshop and e-book “Sex for the Soul” I go into great detail as to what a couple can do, but here I’ll just give you a short list of tips:

1. Have eye contact when you make love much of the time. See and allow yourself to be seen, be emotionally *****.

2. Talk about your *** life. Be willing to increase your communication about specific sexual physical details by 100%; what works for you, what doesn’t, and what you wish your partner and you would try. Keep blame out of it. Rather then focusing on what doesn’t work let each other know what would work. Make yourself vulnerable and be honest.

3. Relax your body when you make love. Slow things down enough so that you can feel your ******** very sensitively. Start slow, and slow down in between more heated moments. Your body will teach you how to have sacred *** if you slow down enough to listen to it.

4. Be willing to experiment with new ways of playing in the bedroom, physically and emotionally.

5. Don’t settle for sexual gratification, which means, don’t just go for ****** at all cost, neither his nor hers. Seek to make love, to create a space of lovingness, each time you connect sexually.

6. Make love often; bring your bodies together regularly. Let your lovemaking become a meditation of surrender, connection, vulnerability and deep relaxation. See it as a spiritual practice. Let your relationship be a journey of learning and growing in love together.

And here an excerpt from my upcoming audio program “Sex for the Soul”

…….One of the messages of this program is: Don’t just have sex, make love! Most people, when they hear the words “making love” immediately assume it means having a sexual exchange, am I right? Have you ever really considered why that is? It is because, since time immemorial, *** is one of the best ways that humans have to create more love: in their relationship, in their lives, and on the planet. Unfortunately, the way things are nowadays, having *** doesn’t mean making love. Consciously engaging in the act of creating more love through the sexual act is not what most people think about when they are having ***. The way *** is promoted these days in popular culture presents *** as a means for physical pleasure, excitement, fun, or even social status. Although there is no problem with any of these, the media is inadvertently promoting loveless ***. “Tips for better sex”, “How to have more sizzling orgasms”, “Make *** last longer”, “5 new techniques to Dazzle Your Partner in Bed”– these are the headlines we see every day on magazine covers. The word “love” does not appear in any of these headlines and that’s why it’s easy to forget to look for love.

Another message of this program is equally important: Don’t just live together, make love! So many long- term couples have given up and resigned themselves to a life of companionship, and maybe occasional sex, but there are many easy and some not so easy things a couple can do to bring the spark back to their partnership.

And to come back to the value of tantric techniques, special breathing rhythms, mantras, chants, sexual positions, energy exercises, incense, sacred symbols, etc. Once you have emotional openness all the above can be a lot of fun and add to your experience in lovely ways. Often the biggest value is not the technique itself but the fact that in endeavoring to bring these things into their life, couples start talking about their sex-life and begin to explore. But just remember, you don’t really need any techniques to have the best *** you ever had. You just need to trust yourself and your body ever more deeply.

If you want to start today, try one of my tips for Sacred *** above.My audio workshop will give you many more explicit and detailed instructions to work with, but for now go to my list of tips and start exploring the vast depths of sexual mystery and magic that is yours by birthright.

Resources:

http://www.sacredloving.net/